You said YES! Now what?!

You're freshly engaged and there's no doubt that this is one of the most exciting times in your life! Celebrate and jumpstart planning with these top 10 things to do after you say yes! 

1. Call your parents! 

They deserve the honor of hearing the news first! A phone call is great, but if you can celebrate in person, it's an excuse for some champagne and the start of making awesome memories!

2. Call friends & family

Before you post to Instagram, make sure that those closest to you hear the news from you rather than your profile! Their reactions will be priceless and you'll definitely want to hear them firsthand. ...Then you can immediately share photos of your new bling ;)

3. Treat yourself to a manicure

EVERYONE is going to be staring at your ring. Feel extra confident showing it off with beautiful nails. 

4. Visit your jeweler

Get your ring sized, appraised, and insured to keep it protected. 

5. Set a date

You might not want to get your hearts set on a specific day since your venue's availability might dictate that for you. Still, you'll definitely want to talk about and agree on the time of year and/or the month for your big day.

6. Come up with a guest count

This rough estimate will help you determine A LOT going forward in your wedding planning. The number of guests will be an important element in choosing a venue and setting a budget.

7. Set a budget

And allocate how much you might want to spend on each vendor. This will help you narrow down where to shop around. 

8. Consult magazines and Pinterest

Maybe you've had your dream wedding pin board created for years, or maybe you've never even given your wedding a thought! No matter where you fall on the spectrum, check out wedding magazines and search online resources like WeddingWireThe Knot, and Pinterest for "wedspiration." With a time of year, a number of guests, and a budget in mind, you can have a better idea of what you want your big day to look like and what will be logistically possible. 

9. Begin your venue tour

Deciding where your wedding will be located should be fun! A big question you'll have to answer before you go is where you want your ceremony to be. Your venue will need to know if they'll be hosting your ceremony or only the reception. Make sure you take LOTS of notes about their offerings, what you like, and what you don't. Keep a rough timeline in your head as you do so; you'll want to leave plenty of time for transportation and photo-taking. 

10. Set regular date nights

We love this idea and cannot stress the importance enough! Your lives will seem consumed with wedding planning as an engaged couple, but you'll want to set aside time where it can be just the two of you enjoying each other and conversation away from all wedding topics! 



Do's and Don'ts of Best Man & MOH speeches

The honor of being chosen for best man or maid-of-honor at a wedding comes with a HUGE amount of responsibility. If you've ever been one, you definitely know what we mean. Whether the title is familiar to you or not, these tips about the infamous speech you'll have to give at the reception are sure to come in handy. 

 

DO: Introduce yourself

And we don't mean say "I'm the maid-of-honor." Most of the time, there will be guests at the wedding who have absolutely no clue who you are, regardless of how close you are to the bride and/or groom. Take a moment to say how you know the couple. This will give a nice perspective for the listeners!

DO: Congratulate the couple

Right off the bat, if you congratulate the couple, you'll get a nice round of applause from the room which will definitely calm your nerves and set a really positive tone for the speech. 

DO: Use an anecdote

Quick stories about the bride, groom, or couple together are excellent for the body of your speech. Keep it to one or two short stories. When you first saw the couple together, the way the couple met, and maybe a light hearted embarrassing story or fun fact about the couple are classics. If you can pinpoint the moment you knew the couple was meant to be, that's the best kind of story. Pro tip: If the moral of your anecdote can relate to the moral of your speech, you're golden. 

DON'T: Use inside jokes

We can all agree that's it's no fun when people tell inside jokes in front of us. Don't do that to a ballroom packed full of people. 

DON'T: Forget to compliment the couple

Tell the bride she's beautiful. Tell the groom he's a lucky man. Tell them they are a perfect match. If there's one time you should go off-the-cuff, it's when you give compliments. Rehearsed compliments feel disingenuous. Let your compliments speak to the reality of the moment. 

DON'T: Be afraid of humor

This is a heartfelt speech, but it doesn't mean you can't throw in a little bit of sarcastic joking or embarrassing facts about the bride or groom. 

DO: Hold a microphone

The DJ should provide you with one. Hold it and remember to speak into it. The room will want to hear you and the bride and groom will want your audio to pick up on the wedding video! 

DON'T: Be selfish

This isn't a speech about you. It's easy to start every sentence with I, but try your best not to do that. 

DO: Limit your alcohol intake before the speech

Sorry. A couple drinks throughout the day is okay, Save the tequila shots for after the toast. Slurred speeches are hysterical but also really bad at the same time. 

DON'T: Go off-the-cuff

Write a speech. You will feel more confident than if you don't. Writing down a speech (or at least an outline) will help you steer clear of rambling and saying the things that the signature cocktails told you to say. 

DO: Rehearse

The best speakers always rehearse their speeches. Avoid the dreaded "um" and "uh" by reciting it a few times in front of a mirror. Rehearsing will also help you feel comfortable with the speech so you know when to stay strong during the emotional parts. 

DO: Have a positive outlook

You got this and you're going to have so much fun! Just remember that this is one of the happiest days of the couple's new life together and that they love you no matter what.


Ceremony Sound Tips

A couple weeks ago we gave you a lesson on selecting songs for each section of a ceremony. Today, we want to add to the knowledge with some tips to use when choosing songs for you own wedding ceremony!

Brides have been walking down the aisle to Richard Wagner’s “Bridal Chorus” for almost 200 years in the Western world. It's a true classic, but what began as a church standard two centuries ago is being phased out with more contemporary music being phased in. While we respect and honor the tradition of "Here Comes the Bride," we also understand and appreciate when couples want to choose songs that reflect their personalities a little better. 

With so many options, it can be a challenge to pick the perfect song for each point in your ceremony. Having played just about everything imaginable, here are a few useful tips for selecting ceremony music:

  1. Like what you pick – It's your day, so let the music reflect that! A song that speaks to your hearts as a couple will set the tone for the ceremony and dictate the emotions you and your guests feel. Any genre is welcomed as long as it has a positive vibe.
  2. Consider a cover – Maybe an original track you love is waaay over played. Search if any other artists have recorded a cover version. Chances are that it has been done! For example, "Make You Feel My Love" is covered by Adele, Billy Joel, Bob Dylan, and ortoPilot. Groups like Vitamin String Quartet and The Piano Guys offer classic instrumental renditions of modern music, too. 
  3. Edit till it's yours – It's possible to customize songs that you choose with editing tools. Intros can be trimmed and songs can be mixed or looped to suit the length of your processional. 
  4. Don’t sweat the timing – It's nearly impossible to match the length of your processional or recessional to the music. Let the DJ start and fade out the music at the appropriate time. Just make sure that the melody is suitable for a natural walking pace and enjoy the moment worry free! 
  5. Make the recessional fun – This is really a grand entrance and exit all rolled into one. You've just kissed for the first time as husband and wife, and now the party can begin! The more upbeat the song, the better.

    Make your musical choices a representation of your love and this special celebration. Now is the time to be original and create a personalized experience that's 100% you. 

Check out our hand-picked playlists for some 'wedspiration' on SPOTIFY!

Ceremony Song Selections

It's easy to get caught up thinking about making a reception playlist for your big day. Naturally, you want that perfect balance of Top 40 dance jams, some classics, a couple throwbacks to honor your younger years, and some romantic ballads for a slow dance or two. But reception song selection is the fun part! It's the ceremony music that's probably going to take some additional research and planning. Don't sweat it, though, we've got your back!

When you're thinking about ceremony music, you must first consider the type of ceremony and the venue where you'll be reciting your "I do's." A traditional ceremony in a house of worship may limit you to classic or religious songs, while a casual ceremony at a catering hall or outside will give you more flexibility. Remember that your ceremony has the potential to set the tone for the entire day and should be a representation of your personalities and your love. With that said, here are the moments in your ceremony where you'll want to think about music and song selection!

Prelude

The music that plays as your guests walk into your church or ceremony area, mingle, and take a seat This music will definitely play a big role in setting the tone. Regardless of the location, keep it light, romantic, and uplifting! The prelude typically lasts about 20-30 minutes, so choose several songs.

Processional

First comes the groom followed by the wedding party. This music can be whatever your heart desires as long as it moves at a reasonable pace suitable for walking naturally. Before the bride gets her cue to enter the ceremony, the bridal party processional song comes to an end and all of the attendees stand as a new song begins. This song should be a bit more dramatic. Nothing says drama like the opening of "The Bridal Chorus" better known as "Here Comes the Bride." A more modern bride might go for something like "At Last" by Etta James. 

Interlude

Interlude songs are important to consider if you're going to perform any type of ritual, like a candle lighting ceremony, sand ceremony, or knot tying ceremony. Maybe a musical interlude will be in the form of worship, or maybe you'll want to have a loved one serenade you with a meaningful tune. Transitions during the ceremony are also a nice time to play a musical interlude.

Recessional

You said your "I do's" and sealed them with a kiss! Woo! Now it's time to celebrate! Pick a song to play while you exit your ceremony. Make it a happy one, because happy is probably an understatement as to how you'll be feeling in that moment. We suggest something like "All You Need is Love" by The Beatles, "Walking on Sunshine" by Katrina and The Waves, or "I Choose You" by Sara Bareilles. 

Postlude

Take the songs that didn't make the cut for your recessional and put them in the lineup to play afterward while your guests linger at the end of the ceremony. 

Happy listening! If you're stumped you can always ask the pros at Silverfox DJs for any recommendations!


Why you should forget everything you learned in dance lessons

Your first dance as husband and wife is something you've fantasized about. It's that kind of experience where time stops and the world around you disappears. All eyes are on you, but all you see is your best friend and new life partner holding you close. You try not to cry, but let's be honest here, you're probably going to get a little misty. 

For these reasons, you should forget everything you learned in dance lessons. 

To be clear, this doesn't mean that you and your future spouse shouldn't attend dance lessons. Dance lessons are awesome. That might sound confusing. We'll back it up a bit. Your number one priority should be to feel comfortable on the dance floor. If either of you has two left feet, a few dance lessons under your belts well help you understand what it feels like to dance as a duo. In fact, we really do recommend that you sign up for a few sessions, because slow dancing with one another takes a different form of confidence than doing the Cha Cha Slide. 

So then why should you forget the steps? It's simple- your time out there on the dance floor is precious. You likely agonized over your wedding song, so why drown out the melody and lyrics with "and one, two, three, one, two, three, back, center, right, center" ringing through your head?! Not to mention that you're probably going to step on each other's toes, anyway.

So instead of taking dance lessons too seriously, look at them as an opportunity to gain some confidence with your partner on the dance floor and a break from the stress of wedding planning. When it comes to the first dance, just sway to the rhythm of love (song reference to the Plain White T's, anyone?). Maybe you'll impress your guests with a spin or two, but most importantly, you'll be in the moment.